First of the First

I have been hearing for the past few years about the first of the last once your kids become seniors in high school. Walker has been looking at colleges for the past few months. It is overwhelming to say the least. He has worked hard his entire school career and has been looking forward to this step for a long time.

Fall season sports and activities have almost come to a close and for some it will be the last time they will be playing among their friends on the soccer team. This is no different for Walker. I try not to think of it as the first of the last but instead the first of the first.

When they were little we celebrated first steps, first foods and first teeth. Why does it have to stop there. It may be the last time they are doing high school things but it is also the first time they will be experiencing other things for the first time. I am trying to not mourn the first of the last but celebrate the first of the first.

For the first time I see him managing and multi-tasking deadlines, applications and schedules. All part of adulthood. I watch and he is navigating it better than I could imagine. Though I don’t put my kids on a pedestal they do make me proud. It’s for that reason I encourage them to reach for their dreams. I never want them to wonder…. what if? They can at least say I tried. I don’t want them to give up on their dreams. Too many kids and even adults have their dreams squashed by someone who didn’t believe in them.

So this mom is going to continue to celebrate the first of all the firsts and not think about the first of the last. Nothing is ending for these kids… it’s just the beginning of wonderful things to happen for each of them.

Walker turns 17…

2018 Happy New Year!

Here’s to saying good-bye to 2017 and welcoming 2018 with great anticipation of endless possibilities.

Instead of looking what one cannot do but instead what can be accomplished.  Being that it was ridiculously cold outside therefore limiting the desire for any outdoor activities sometimes you look to what you do have available …  bubbles and a fireplace.

Here is to seeing ones opportunities rather than acknowledging obstacles to achieve ones dreams.

The big c …

Cancer has touched so many people that I know.  It knows no bounds and does not discriminate based on, race, religion, sex or age.  It touches the lives of children, men and woman.  It has affected friends as well as strangers.  No one is immune…. no one.

I have had friends men and woman that have been affected by breast cancer.  Yes men can get this horrible disease.  Many friends are currently recovering from treatments and some are still undergoing them.

The latest victim of this horrible disease is someone that lives in South Africa.  We have never met but have much in common.  Though we live thousands of miles from each other we were married on the exact same day and she has three sons and I have two.  They are roughly the same ages and probably would get along quite nicely.  We found each other through our blogs many many years ago and became Facebook friends as well.  We have followe each journeys and watched our children grow.  Recently, through Facebook, I found out that she is undergoing treatment for breast cancer.  Weeks passed and found out her mom was also traveling this same horrific journey with her.  I am glad they have each other to lean on and support each other.  One of my first thoughts was of her dad.  He was not only watching his beloved child go through this but his lifetime wife endure the same.  From what I can gather is Melanie has incredible support among her friends and family.  

If this disease has taught me anything is the more I learn the more I realize I don’t know.  It affect different people differently and no two are the same regardless of the stage or type of cancer.  There is no way for one to know how another feels unless they too have been through the treatment and recovery.  Even then stories and experiences are apt to be different.  

This disease along with many others affects not only the individual but everyone around that cares and loves them.  It creates financial and emotional hardship.  I only hope that the next year bring strives towards a cure for this horrible disease.